A 32-year-old woman recently revealed on Reddit that she’s been frequently excluded from family dinners by her husband’s family throughout their three-year marriage. Despite being married to her 35-year-old husband, she was often told to “sit this one out,” while her brothers-in-law’s partners were always included. This exclusion left her feeling isolated and hurt.

The situation came to a head when she was once again asked to stay home. Fed up, she decided to make a bold move: she made a reservation at the same restaurant and arrived shortly after her husband, surprising his family. Her husband and mother-in-law were taken aback, calling her actions rude. She clarified that she just wanted to enjoy a steak alone.

Later, her husband confessed that excluding her was a “family decision,” driven by his mother’s disapproval of her race, personality, and political views. Shocked but validated, she left to stay with her sister after a heated argument.

In an update, she shared that the support from Reddit users empowered her to confront her husband about his family’s prejudices. She now contemplates separation or divorce, realizing their marriage may not survive such deep-seated familial disapproval.